One of life’s biggest ironies is that the same man who shouts from the top of his lungs about not caring for a woman’s level of education will lose sleep just to make sure his daughter never misses a class. This same man will be typing furiously on his keyboard talking about “no high value man cares about a woman’s degree!” while bribing his daughter’s way into a good national school.
Men talk about submissive wives until it is their daughter’s turn to be submissive. Why do you take your daughters to school if you honestly feel that women do not need degrees? And – for the love of Christ – if you truly feel that the world needs submissive wives, how come you never train your daughters to be submissive?
The world and society at large does not care about your need for a submissive wife – but they do care about their daughters.
One social media user posted about the hypocrisy in men wanting submissive wives regardless of their education level, but the same men educating their daughters. Reading the comments I could not help but wonder why such men even bother going after learned women. If you genuinely do not care after a woman’s level of education, then stop pursuing women who are learned. You have all the rights to go after a class three dropout, bring her to the house and let her play housewife. Let her cook and clean and shut her mouth while at it. After all, you also do want a woman that does not talk to much, if I am not wrong.
But no, you will chase a woman with a PHD and tell her her papers do not matter and that she should stay quiet.
You want a woman who went to school for more than twenty years to keep quiet? What about all those things she learnt in school? Are you trying to make her run mad? She has to talk bwana lest her head explodes! If education in your woman is not that important to you, then go after a class 8 drop out. Unless of course this is about control, where you want to marry a woman with a degree only to make her quit her career and play house; cleaning your shoes, ironing your clothes and cooking your meals.
In response to the social media post, a guy by the name Malcolm X (oh, the irony..) retorted in response “fathers educate their daughters as an insurance plan in case they choose to remain single or are ever in an abusive relationship, they can walk away…”)
I mean, so then, the degrees do matter, right? Plus Is that not the whole point?
So basically you think your daughters matter more than your wives, who also happen to be other people’s daughters?
Can’t a girl be educated just because she is as much of your child as your son is? How come there are never any explanations needed when educating boys?
One even went as far as lamenting how he could never marry a corporate woman for fear of her being “chewed” at the office just to climb the ladder. Does that mean that you will not allow your child to go to school so as to prevent this from happening to her? If that is the case, when she finally gets to that point where she needs to be chewed, is it ants that will chew her?
What am I even saying?
When it is your neighbour’s daughter climbing the corporate ladder then she is being chewed but when it is your own child, of course, it is God’s favour. What have we not seen or heard in this society that is full of hypocrisy?
It is a fact that fatherhood rewires a man’s worldview. Suddenly, that degree he once mocked becomes a matter of pride. The same patriarchy that tells him women belong in the kitchen suddenly feels like a personal enemy when it threatens his daughter’s dreams.
The sad fact is that the very same men who see education and ambition as threatening in women they might date, find it very empowering in their daughters.
Why must feminism only make sense when it has your last name attached to it
We have seen it on numerous occasions, when a woman is killed by a male partner and there is zero empathy from the male population unless the question “what if that was your mother, sister or daughter? Is thrown around. This is about a society where empathy for women often begins too close to home, or else….there is none to be offered.
Speaking of which, how many times have you come across the statement “what if this was your husband, son or brother?” rarely, if ever. But that one of what if this was your mother……” well, you get the drift. That alone speaks for something.
Real equality requires seeing every woman as someone’s daughter, not just your daughter.
Now they are saying that this topic is redundant because women’s education is used as a bargaining chip when it comes to dowry payments.
But sir…..who benefits from dowry? A system that was put up by men to benefit men. You do realise that women are never present in dowry negotiations? Also, all those payments go into men’s pockets right? Brothers, fathers, uncles etc. I have never seen a woman receiving dowry money. Now, it is education being used as a bargaining chip as you want to claim. But you forget that there has always been something being used. Way before Africans took their children to school, it was either a woman’s beauty, her tallness or even the status of her family that was used to determine the size of her dowry.
What do women have to do with dowry?
This hypocrisy is nauseating. If you want to do away with dowry, then men need to sit down and find a way to do away with it, just as they came up with it in the first place.
And in the same vein, if you feel like degrees do not matter when it comes to women, then by all means, do not take your daughters to school. You have all the time in the world to teach them how to be submissive wives instead.
If there is one thing I have come to learn, it is that the biggest feminists are fathers with daughters, only that they just don’t know it yet.
The Biggest Feminists I Have Ever Come Across Are Fathers with Daughters
One of life’s biggest ironies is that the same man who shouts from the top of his lungs about not caring for a woman’s level of education will lose sleep just to make sure his daughter never misses a class. This same man will be typing furiously on his keyboard talking about “no high value man cares about a woman’s degree!” while bribing his daughter’s way into a good national school.
Men talk about submissive wives until it is their daughter’s turn to be submissive. Why do you take your daughters to school if you honestly feel that women do not need degrees? And – for the love of Christ – if you truly feel that the world needs submissive wives, how come you never train your daughters to be submissive?
The world and society at large does not care about your need for a submissive wife – but they do care about their daughters.
One social media user posted about the hypocrisy in men wanting submissive wives regardless of their education level, but the same men educating their daughters. Reading the comments I could not help but wonder why such men even bother going after learned women. If you genuinely do not care after a woman’s level of education, then stop pursuing women who are learned. You have all the rights to go after a class three dropout, bring her to the house and let her play housewife. Let her cook and clean and shut her mouth while at it. After all, you also do want a woman that does not talk to much, if I am not wrong.
But no, you will chase a woman with a PHD and tell her her papers do not matter and that she should stay quiet.
You want a woman who went to school for more than twenty years to keep quiet? What about all those things she learnt in school? Are you trying to make her run mad? She has to talk bwana lest her head explodes! If education in your woman is not that important to you, then go after a class 8 drop out. Unless of course this is about control, where you want to marry a woman with a degree only to make her quit her career and play house; cleaning your shoes, ironing your clothes and cooking your meals.
In response to the social media post, a guy by the name Malcolm X (oh, the irony..) retorted in response “fathers educate their daughters as an insurance plan in case they choose to remain single or are ever in an abusive relationship, they can walk away…”)
I mean, so then, the degrees do matter, right? Plus Is that not the whole point?
So basically you think your daughters matter more than your wives, who also happen to be other people’s daughters?
Can’t a girl be educated just because she is as much of your child as your son is? How come there are never any explanations needed when educating boys?
One even went as far as lamenting how he could never marry a corporate woman for fear of her being “chewed” at the office just to climb the ladder. Does that mean that you will not allow your child to go to school so as to prevent this from happening to her? If that is the case, when she finally gets to that point where she needs to be chewed, is it ants that will chew her?
What am I even saying?
When it is your neighbour’s daughter climbing the corporate ladder then she is being chewed but when it is your own child, of course, it is God’s favour. What have we not seen or heard in this society that is full of hypocrisy?
It is a fact that fatherhood rewires a man’s worldview. Suddenly, that degree he once mocked becomes a matter of pride. The same patriarchy that tells him women belong in the kitchen suddenly feels like a personal enemy when it threatens his daughter’s dreams.
The sad fact is that the very same men who see education and ambition as threatening in women they might date, find it very empowering in their daughters.
Why must feminism only make sense when it has your last name attached to it
We have seen it on numerous occasions, when a woman is killed by a male partner and there is zero empathy from the male population unless the question “what if that was your mother, sister or daughter? Is thrown around. This is about a society where empathy for women often begins too close to home, or else….there is none to be offered.
Speaking of which, how many times have you come across the statement “what if this was your husband, son or brother?” rarely, if ever. But that one of what if this was your mother……” well, you get the drift. That alone speaks for something.
Real equality requires seeing every woman as someone’s daughter, not just your daughter.
Now they are saying that this topic is redundant because women’s education is used as a bargaining chip when it comes to dowry payments.
But sir…..who benefits from dowry? A system that was put up by men to benefit men. You do realise that women are never present in dowry negotiations? Also, all those payments go into men’s pockets right? Brothers, fathers, uncles etc. I have never seen a woman receiving dowry money. Now, it is education being used as a bargaining chip as you want to claim. But you forget that there has always been something being used. Way before Africans took their children to school, it was either a woman’s beauty, her tallness or even the status of her family that was used to determine the size of her dowry.
What do women have to do with dowry?
This hypocrisy is nauseating. If you want to do away with dowry, then men need to sit down and find a way to do away with it, just as they came up with it in the first place.
And in the same vein, if you feel like degrees do not matter when it comes to women, then by all means, do not take your daughters to school. You have all the time in the world to teach them how to be submissive wives instead.
If there is one thing I have come to learn, it is that the biggest feminists are fathers with daughters, only that they just don’t know it yet.
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